It must be more than ten years since Tamara and I were last in touch. Once again, in this time of isolation, I am gratified by a connection made via this blog. It is a reminder and a confirmation that physical separation doesn’t need to keep us apart in spirit.
The abuser and his enablers
by Tamara Simon, Seattle, Washington
On Saturday, when the media declared Biden the president-elect, I did not feel happy. This really surprised me. For months I had been working on postcard campaigns, phone banks and delivering yard signs for Biden.
Then I realized that instead of feeling happy, I felt like a battered spouse who has moved to a safe house but has PTSD. All the broken bones have mended, but the trauma from the mental and physical abuse remains. You also know that the abuser is still out there. Free to find you and still cause damage to your life and the lives of other people.
The abuser has so many enablers to support him. Half of all Americans of voting age wanted him to continue with his pursuit of a dictatorship instead of a democracy. They were comfortable with a pathological liar who uses racism to fan the flames of hate. They overlook his misogyny, xenophobia and disregard for the constitution. They are fine with his lack of integrity and common decency. Most baffling of all to me is how they dismiss the deaths of a quarter of a million Americans due to his lack of leadership and concern over a deadly pandemic.
I used to wonder how Nazi Germany or the Rwandan genocide could happen. I no longer wonder how these crimes against humanity and mass hysteria came to be. The abuser encouraged militia groups, used media outlets to create chaos, cast constant doubt on those who opposed him (fake news) and eliminated those who spoke truth to power. For all the hate speech and criminal behavior of the abuser, the blame has to be shared. The people followed the abuser. That is why I no longer feel safe in America. So many Americans share the values of the abuser.
Now, almost a week after Biden has been declared the president-elect, the abuser refuses to make a concession speech. He declares fraud, wants recounts and legal action to retain his position. Peaceful transfer of power is in jeopardy.
I want us all to be able to relax and be happy. I want us to move forward and heal. I want to trust that America will be a safe haven with justice for all. I am grateful for all those who have the energy to work so hard to create a better future for everyone in America. I just need more time to heal right now, and I suspect I am not alone in that.